Anger Management

in Natural Medicine11 days ago (edited)

It was 95 F when I went outside. I needed to withdraw some cash from an ATM nearby. My mom told me she had just transfer a little of pocket money that I could use. I was more than excited because I had to pay my laundry and was short on cash that time. I even passed through my regular laundry place and told the owner " I'll go to ATM first". I was confident that there would be nothing wrong with the transaction.Then, when I went inside the atm, it notified me "Sorry we couldn't do this transaction". So, I left the atm briefly slight worried, slight annoyed.
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I decided I would walk to another ATM that was about a mile and half from the first atm. While I walked, I even felt my phone was about to explode. It was a long annoying walk and quite worrisome.As soon as I reached the other ATM, I was shocked finding that it said " insufficient balance". I wondered what happened with my money. I wanted to check with my e-banking but I forgot to bring my wifi. It was double annoyance and I panicked.

It was crazy humid and hot, my phone was about to explode, and I just lost the last money on my bank account. Everything annoyed me that time and I could only feel disappointment in my self. " How could this happen?" and it made me question my adulthood.

I was never build to have a good coping mechanism with emotions. I was either too angry, too sad, too happy, too excited and there was no balance. It took a while to learn. Even these days, I don't think my coping mechanism is in a healthy chart.

There are some things I do when I feel anger these days;

  • Breathe
  • Turning off my phone
  • Write why I am angry on a paper
  • Tear the paper
  • Sleep
  • Explain it to someone else
  • Solve the problem.

I think breathing helps me pausing and processing bad things that are happening to me.It also helps with minimizing bad decision that may happen during the time. The other techniques are there to help me take the problem off my mind and solving it.

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What happend with your Laundry? xD

I ended up taking a ride home to avoid that laundry place and took my laundry two days after that happened. It was a weird and unfortunate day.

He asked just the question I was about to ask. Sorry about that day.

Hope today went well

Haha great xD

Ohh haha xD Well, sorry to hear that either way :D

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Hope everything worked out... once you can stay chill and even positive in those moments, everything about life gets easier 👶🏼

I try to stay positive even if it's hard, not always successful but I have tried.

I have had worst and frustrating days but it is not about which is more but how we tend to control our anger during these times.

When I am frustrated or angry about something, I just separate myself to a more silent place and lock up. I either play my guitar to distract my mind for the cause of the anger or I force myself to sleep and think about the issue in my dream.

yeah, sleep heals and clears mind quite effective ! ooh that's awesome that you can play guitar as well😀

Smile.. you must have forgotten I play the guitar. It's not the first time I am saying it in your comment session.

haha :D yeah man I interacted with lots of people, write lots of comments, I try my best to remember but eh.

Okay I understand. Means you haven't known me yet. I hope you do soon 🙂

 10 days ago 

Breathing is EVERYTHING. You know, it's not 'just breathing' - because sometimes the WAY we breath doesn't help us. I tend to shallow breathe - a result of being asthmatic, and an anxious person, well, one that suffers anxiety.

I was never build to have a good coping mechanism with emotions. I was either too angry, too sad, too happy, too excited and there was no balance. It took a while to learn. Even these days, I don't think my coping mechanism is in a healthy chart.

I too struggle with my emotions (not all of the time - sometimes I have them in control) such as getting frustrated far too easily.

One technique I learnt was square breathing - in for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, and so on - BUT - here's the kicker - pause at the top, and pause at the bottom. The other good thing to do is make your exhalation longer than your inhalation, calming down the parasympathetic nervous system. Ah, I should write a post about this!